Wedding Planning Hot Buttons…
Tuesday, 3 November 2009 1:35 pm byI made a few fairly big changes to the decor in our living room recently but it wasn’t until a few days later that my husband even noticed them. I just sat back and waited. And waited. Funny ha ha or funny peculiar… I still haven’t decided.
But in all fairness, my husband is usually a pretty observant guy, armed with an opinion. However, it did take me a while to learn~ that he’d rather be included on the more major decisions, rather than the minor ones… {apparently wall art falls under minor.}
In any case, I recall that his “major and minor” involvement made wedding planning a bit frustrating for me. I found myself wondering… does he even care~ which he did~ just not the way I wanted him to at the time.
Are you experiencing something similar with your FH {or FW}?
Are you discovering new hot buttons at an alarming rate? Do normal everyday nouns like “color” and “guests” and “uplighting” result in the silent treatment or the need for space?
How do you circumvent the hot buttons or negotiate through them?
Talk about it.
And keep talking about it!
Get clever about discovering what will excite your future spouse. Maybe excitement will come by being the master of playlists… the bar menu… or the map and direction czar!
And along the way,
you just may discover that you’re marrying someone who is simply OK with you making most of the decisions… because~ well, you’re loved and you’re trusted!
Are you experiencing something similar with your FH {or FW}? How are you working it out?
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Helping you keep your feet on the ground while your head is in the clouds! I LOVE everything about planning a wedding! 
Nalie :
Date: November 3, 2009 @ 1:50 pm
I am definitely discovering that he’s totally ok with me making most of the decisions…but I still like to ask him still
But as he says “If it really matters to me, you’ll know.”
Lisa :
Date: November 3, 2009 @ 3:14 pm
We used each other’s strengths to decide who would take the lead. I was in charge of the DIY projects and stationery design, he was in charge of planning the honeymoon and gathering photos and music for the ceremony and reception. It all worked out pretty easily!
Jen :
Date: November 3, 2009 @ 4:48 pm
I was in the same boat as Lisa, I mainly did all the design work and everything that included such detail that only I would notice, like putting the exact number of jellybeans in the jars and tying the perfect bow for our favors while he took care of the honeymoon and making sure HIS friends were on top of their tuxes.
Cheryl :
Date: November 4, 2009 @ 4:48 pm
We had about 7 weeks to plan the wedding and my then FH is rather slow with decisions … but he wanted to be involved in as much as possible. For us it was just knowing one another well enough to know when to discuss and when to just act…flowers would be a really good example. His eyes would have literally rolled backward had he been with me at the florist!
And, yes, like you said, it is about knowing and trusting one another’s taste. The longer we are married now, the more freedom we both extend and possess. We both love compromise, so it just keeps getting better and better!
Nicole-Lynn :
Date: November 7, 2009 @ 5:27 pm
We just got engaged and I already have planning on the brain… he wants us to enjoy our engagement a little before we make any definite decisions, so we’re waiting until after the holiday’s to start planning for the wedding officially. I’m trying to pre-occupy my time by planning an engagement party, set up an engagement session, and announce our engagement in the paper.